A man knows only a small part of his own psyche, just as he has only limited knowledge of the physiology of his own body...
How we appear in the world may seem obvious at first, and for the most part it is.
You are you after all, right?
The thing is there is much more going on under the surface, rooted deep in our subconscious mind. An emotional blueprint, dictating how we both see ourselves in the world and constantly defining how other people see us.
A program, running on auto pilot, presenting itself as your identity, but defined often from voices from our past, constantly looking outside for a sense of being, always trying to find that missing part.
The way you act, speak, behave, treat other people (and yourself) is without self-awareness no more than a piece of software, downloaded into your subconscious then playing out as a state of being in your outwardly experience of life.
To understand ourselves better and to even begin to think about doing a mental rewire, it’s important to meet the parts of the self, that quite possibly you’ve never met before, but that have been trying to ‘talk’ to you for as long as you remember.
Changing your outward experience of life, means changing the way you talk to yourself, and to change the way you talk to yourself, you must first understand who is talking…
The parts of you that make up the inner workings of your overthinking mind can be broken down into four components:
The Self is where your true essence resides. The loving, trustworthy and safe part of you that knows the world to be a good place.
The Inner Critic is where anything bad you have ever heard about yourself from others gets internalized meaning: you start to develop a judgemental inner voice that attacks you internally. It is here that your confidence and sense of wellbeing gets knocked down.
The Inner Child is the part that craves love and safety.
The Ego is the default program protecting you from both real and perceived danger in the world.
In that way, it is both useful (think of it as a body guard) and maladaptive responding to fear that is often created by both the Inner Child and/or the Inner Critic. In the latter scenario, the Ego creates distorted thinking patterns...