Codependency is something we rarely recognise in ourselves and it takes courage to ask these questions about ourselves.
Codependency is a learned set of behaviours, and can make you feel incredibly unappreciated, constantly seeking validation from something other than yourself.
More often than not, that validation is sought in SOMEONE else, leading to relationship enmeshment, dysfunction and in extreme cases can attract abusive partners. It also can lead to addiction problems.
If you recognise these patterns in yourself it may well seem overwhelming and can sound insurmountable, but co-dependency can be overcome and you can enjoy healthy relationships, but these will only come from a place of loving yourself, a positive sense of self worth and and providing your own emotional anchors - all of these things are achievable with commitment to change, hard work and courage,
It is likely your codependent behaviours are learnt and this is often from childhood experience and trauma, sometimes before we are even 8 years old.
Recovery is a rewiring process that involves gaining a deeper understanding into your own experience, reconnecting to the parts of you that feel insecure and working on your own self worth, self esteem and learning to provide a solid base for your sense of well being - so you can provide your own emotional safety and escape the need to have someone else make you feel emotionally regulated.
I hope you find the courage to explore this part of yourself and begin your journey to emotional freedom, it isn't found in changing your relationship or the way you look.
Emotional freedom comes from working on how you feel about yourself, and then working towards reframing and rebuilding how you think about yourself and your own sense of self worth
Much love